Diary? Nothing that I wouldn't tell a client. Not everything that is written pertains to me or my life.
The things I see, hear...the people I talk to, all influence or impact my thoughts. Just saying!

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Complaints

How can anyone ever complain? We want to, for sure. And we sure do!
I've heard people complain about things and then time passes, and they do the same exact thing. Maybe just to another person. Maybe at the same exact time! Only when it's to do with oneself, it's for some reason more painful. For whatever reason, more important. And many times when the same person who's complained is doing the same exact thing to someone else, they hardly see it. It seems so just, and so reasonable to be the one 'hurt'.  So easy to be the 'victim'.

It goes for me as well.  I've noticed this too many times. I'll be hurt about how someone  'treats' me and want to pout and complain and tell how bad that person is. And if it's someone who's complained to me, and now is the one doing it, I want to be infuriated and just blurt out that, "you're doing what you don't like!"
And it hits me. I am doing that exact thing, but to another one. I do exactly that too!  How come it's OK for me to be treating someone that way, yet complain and rant about how I am being treated? If I were so perfect and someone was wronging me, then perhaps I'd have reason to complain. But if I am just as guilty, then what right do I have. Shouldn't I start with myself and fix what I do? It might be in another conversation, in another situation, in another place and time...But the truth is, it's exactly that which I complain about. Weather in my mind or outspoken.

Well, perhaps there are people who will complain for all time beings. And sadly, they may never see that they are as guilty as the ones they blame. Yes, it's not nice to be wronged, or mistreated, or anything else... There's no excuse for it. Or for that person. But, I believe it should always start with examining oneself. And many times, seeing that self being imperfect and faulty in those same manners will ease the complaining, and perhaps push to change or work on those same exact things we see in others! Look at ourselves as the wrong doers and fix it, before seeing everybody else's wrongdoings. It's not fun. But is certainly is true...

Whatever goes around, comes around...