Diary? Nothing that I wouldn't tell a client. Not everything that is written pertains to me or my life.
The things I see, hear...the people I talk to, all influence or impact my thoughts. Just saying!

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Tenderness

“A mother’s arms are made of tenderness and children sleep soundly in them.” – Victor Hugo

A few thoughts in condensed form;)

As I cradle my baby.

 I remember the post Peter made with the said quote. We used to watch the show Criminal Minds and they'd always have a cool quote before and after an episode. That is where he heard it. 
For some reason, it makes me think how often people do things out of obligation or routine. You can rock a baby to sleep because you have to. Or, you can rock a baby to sleep because you love her. With tenderness and affection.  She's precious to you and you want her to get the rest she needs to grow and develop.
You can stay in a marriage because "you have to". Or because you choose to love with a Christ like love, stay committed and devoted, seeking to work at anything that comes your way. 
You can go to work out of pure necessity or you can find joy in the God given job and enjoy what you do. 
We like to complain. (I do too.) But if what we complain about so much in our life was taken away, we would complain even more! 
I'd rather be grateful, thankful, appreciative, and happy about whatever it is in my life, than lose it and then be devastated.
I'd rather do what I do out of love than pure obligation. (Even though, obligation still plays a huge role.) it's the motive and the approach that make all the difference.

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Little boy comes over today...

Nothing like a child to show you how dirty your house is. What seems to be decent and looks good from afar and in general is quite not the same when stooped down low and seen from 'up close and personal'. Like a baby on the floor that picks up every piece of lint, hair, crumb and all, it's good to get down low, close and re-examine. Not so clean as it once appeared. And so it is with people. We look at "their" life, from afar, through a projected imagery they have displayed with chosen words or photographs and decide, 'but their life is so...but they are...' "I like him." "I like her." 
But no. Get close. Re-evaluate. Analyze and be real. Too many times that big smile on a photograph is just a mask for the reality of pain. (Do not take this the wrong way-I am not talking about myself!) 
Too many times, if you would get closer and find out what it looks like up close, you'd change your mind. 
Don't like, for mere appearances. Don't desire based on "the sound, the looks of it, him, her," "That's suitable for me." "If only I could be, have, do..."
Basically don't believe in the lies and illusions, pretenses of what is presented from a distance. Know what's real, truth. Find out and see it as it is. There's more happiness in that.